Blog for psychotherapy practice in NYC (Murray Hill, Manhattan) addressing women's mental, emotional, and sexual health, along with self-esteem, dating, and relationships.
I recently walked by a store with a sign outside saying: "Flaws Make You Real." This made me wonder, if flaws make you real, then why are so many of us focused on covering up or hiding our imperfections? Human beings are naturally imperfect. We all have distinct blemishes that make us who we are. Why would we wish to be or to look unauthentic?
Read MoreAnxiety can feel debilitating and paralyzing.
You have knots in your stomach. Your thoughts are racing. You toss and turn, wishing you could sleep. Maybe you feel other things too: anger, sadness, self-doubt.
Read MoreYou know that moment, when your thoughts start racing and your body tenses up? You feel restless and you can’t focus on anything else because you are so overcome with worry, fear, or nervousness. Your stomach might even feel a little queasy.
Read MoreThese are my favorite herpes resources. They include my most recommended sites for facts and information, good books, positive encouraging websites, and some great articles. I hope you find these supportive on your journey.
Read MoreBelow are some answers to common questions or misconceptions my clients diagnosed with herpes often ask or talk with me about in therapy sessions. I hope these are helpful to you as you process your feelings and thoughts about your diagnosis.
Read MoreThe most pressing question many of my clients with genital herpes have, even more than worry about how to tell someone their dating that they have herpes, is when to tell someone they’re dating that they have herpes.
Most of the clients who work with me are looking for a relationship as opposed to casual sex. I do have some clients who enjoy casual sex and who have success disclosing to those partners, but today I’m going to focus on those of you who are seeking something more serious.
Read MoreI know it might be hard to believe, but there are a lot of people out there who are not going to be bothered that much by you having herpes. I know because I’ve watched many, many women over the years find partners who just didn’t think herpes was a big deal—and I don’t mean that they searched and searched and finally found one partner who accepted them—I mean that they got out there and dated, and disclosed, and had boyfriends, and lived their lives. I also know because there are great writers out there like Ella Dawson who have disclosed their status publicly and the dating pool has not dried up for them.
Read MoreMaybe you’re reading this because you’ve got that “blah” feeling. You have tasks on your “to do” list, projects you want to start or finish, a workout plan you want to stick to, but you just can’t seem to get motivated. You probably even know that if you just made yourself get up and out, that you would likely feel better.
But it just doesn’t happen.
Read MoreSpiritual faith is an important if not foundational part of many people’s lives. It can also be a source of internal conflict and sadness, especially if you come from a tradition that doesn’t allow much space for questioning or difference--and you happen to be questioning or different. Continue Reading
Read MoreA common concern among heterosexual women I work with who desire to find a long-term partner, is a fear of being needy. These women are usually bright, independent, and socially competent but are frustrated with dating because experiences with potential partners often seem to go nowhere.
Read MoreThe cold, gray winter is quickly approaching and this seasonal change tends to correspond with periodic or persistent low mood for many. Problems and worries can really feel heavier. It might be hard to believe, but this experience can have value. It can become a time of wrestling with our humanity, connecting to what’s meaningful in our lives, and increasing our awareness and sensitivity to the reality of struggle for others.
Read MoreThis inspiring video about women and body image was created by myself and photographer Fernando Cuestas in 2012. It existed on my previous website before I was a psychotherapist, but I feel the message is important and am so proud of the women that participated that I am providing a new home for the video and it's accompanying text on this blog.
Read MorePsychotherapy in Murray Hill, Manhattan in NYC for women who have experienced disappointment in a relationship, injuries to self-esteem, or a stressful life event. Specialty in working with women coping with a genital herpes diagnosis.
Melissa King, LMHC
141 E. 35th St.
New York, NY 10016
917-689-6530
In-person in NYC
Telehealth available in
CA, FL, and Upstate NY
Melissa King, LMHC : 141 E. 35th St. New York, NY 10016 : 917-689-6530 : melissa@myheartdances.com
Specializing in counseling and psychotherapy for women and gay/bi men, coping with an STD diagnosis, coping with a genital herpes diagnosis, dating and relationship counseling, and self-esteem in my Murray Hill office, walking distance from Grand Central Station.
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